Sarah Jessica Parker in Sex and the City
Exactly 22 years ago, the first episode of “Sex and the City” was released with Sarah Jessica Parker, Cynthia Nixon, Kim Cattrall and Christine Davis in the lead roles. This series had a wild success among women (and not only!) All over the world, who whiled away their evenings watching the next episode and sincerely empathized with the main characters because of their problems in relationships with the opposite sex. To this day, the series does not give up its positions, but today’s millennials look at it with a completely different look.
Over the years, the world has been changing rapidly, many values and attitudes have undergone revision, and what was considered generally accepted at the beginning of the century began to seem strange, outdated, and even completely unacceptable. Alas, our favorite TV series could not stand the test of time either.
In the new material SPLETNIK.RU has collected the main messages of the series “Sex and the City”, formulated by its main character Carrie Bradshaw, which in the age of a new wave of feminism, the fight against racism and prejudice already seem outdated and completely inappropriate.
Misconceptions about the life of a freelancer
Many modern viewers of “Sex and the City” notice that Carrie Bradshaw, throughout all six seasons of the series, demonstrates an overly rosy idea of u200b u200bworking a freelance journalist. The main character’s life, leading her own New York Star column on sex and relationships, mostly consists of daily brunches with friends at the nearest coffee shop, attending social events, parties and fashion weeks, and a short “report” on it all. the size of a couple thousand characters of a Word document, for which she sits down at the very end of the day.
In fact, even the most successful freelance journalists do not lead such an idle lifestyle: they have to spin like a squirrel in a wheel in order to get an order for new material, manage to work in several publications at once (a column in one newspaper, as a rule, is not so paid generously), regularly communicate with fellow journalists, and in parallel collaborate with several news outlets to somehow stay financially afloat.
Many critics are also perplexed how, with a freelance salary, Carrie not only rented an apartment in downtown Manhattan, but also regularly bought new models of her beloved Manolo Blahnik and other haute couture things in boutiques that made up her entire rather big wardrobe.
Body shaming for girlfriends
In many episodes, Samantha Jones talks to Carrie’s friends Charlotte and Miranda about an eating disorder she suffers from relationship problems with her young boyfriend, blonde blue-eyed Smith Jarod. Because of these experiences, Samantha often gains weight, after which she engages in self-flagellation in an attempt to lose unwanted pounds.
However, instead of supporting her friend and instilling in her the confidence that she is good at any weight, Carrie only adds fuel to the fire. In a conversation with Samantha, she is sincerely surprised at how she managed to start herself this way, and in plain text tells her friend about the need to go on a diet. Well, modern feminists would call such a relationship an eloquent example of toxic friendship!
Racism between the lines
Millennials were able to discern in the TV series “Sex and the City” and notes of racism. Remember how during the first calls from her boyfriend, Russian artist Alexander Petrovsky performed by Mikhail Baryshnikov, Carrie hung up just because he had a strong accent? All this time, Bradshaw treated the man on the other end of the line with a strong prejudice and became interested in him only after he introduced himself as a famous Russian art figure.
When the columnist at New York Star realizes her mistake, she lies to Alexander that her fictitious sister used to talk to him on the phone. Everything that happens underlines Carrie’s snobbish attitude to everything that happens outside of glamorous Manhattan.
Arrogance in dealing with girlfriends
Because of her love to spend the last money on a new pair of shoes and the inability to save, Carrie often faces financial difficulties. Therefore, when she once again finds herself on the verge of ruin and almost loses her apartment in Manhattan, her friends are no longer surprised and, as usual, offer her a shoulder for help.
Samantha and Miranda offered to lend to Bradshaw, while the wealthiest of her friends, Charlotte, decided to remain silent in this situation. After that, to the depths of her soul, Carrie bursts into Charlotte’s apartment with a demand to explain why she, unlike Samantha and Miranda, did not offer her any money. This scene shocked many modern viewers of the show, because hardly anyone would allow themselves to show such immodesty and familiarity in real life, especially in communication with friends.
Sexism and lookism in one bottle
For someone whose career depended directly on observing people and their relationships, Carrie was outright unprofessional and biased. Remember how the main character of “Sex and the City” together with her friends conditionally divided the girls into two groups: “thoroughbred” and wayward women with curly hair, like Carrie, and “simpletons” with straight hair, like Mr. Big’s bride, Natasha.
Not only is this division superficial on its own, but the idea that Carrie can in principle support the fact that girls can be simple or complex seems incredibly outdated. The reference in this episode to the 1973 melodrama “What We Were” only emphasizes the sexism that comes through between the lines.
Misconceptions about psychotherapy
In the 21st century, turning to a psychotherapist has already become the norm and routine. A huge number of organizations in the world today insist that you should not be afraid to ask for help if you have psychological problems. In the TV series “Sex and the City”, this idea was stubbornly denied.
After parting with the “dream man” Carrie Bradshaw for a long time continued to fixate on him. At some point, friends began to worry about the psychological state of Carrie and offer her to seek professional help. Carrie, in turn, denies the existence of the problem and claims that she can cope with her emotions on her own. Instead, Bradshaw sarcastically notes that she doesn’t need a therapist, but new friends.
This episode demonstrates not only the substitution of concepts – professional psychological assistance a priori cannot be equated with even the best support from friends – but also the denial that minor troubles without the necessary therapy in the long term can result in major mental health problems.
Toxic relationships and infantilism
At the suggestion of Carrie and her friends, Mr. Big is constantly presented in the series as a problematic ex-boyfriend who cannot fully understand himself. However, if you look at this situation in more detail, you can see that Carrie was also toxic in this relationship. In reality, the “dream man” has always spoken openly about his fear of commitment. Carrie herself was often deceived by her own expectations, did many rash acts behind his back and loved to unobtrusively discuss why he chooses just such women.
In fact, Carrie’s way to glue her broken heart after a difficult breakup is very similar to the tactics of inexperienced schoolgirls who, in conversation with their friends, ridicule the lifestyle of an ex-boyfriend and throw mud at his new girlfriends.
Superficial attitude to work
Many viewers noticed that Carrie’s columns for the newspaper were mostly naive about relationships. In the materials of the main character of “Sex and the City” there was no analysis, any deep reasoning and advice – on the contrary, they often misled readers.
In fact, Carrie never did any real investigative journalism for her column and was not particularly eager to talk to the characters she wrote about. Basically, she only described the experiences of her friends and acquaintances from the secular circle. In 2020, such a superficial relationship expert would hardly be in great demand and would certainly not be published in a well-known publication.
Hypocrisy and condemnation of other people’s views on life
For a sex expert writing her own column on the topic, Carrie was often overly conservative and intolerant. Some modern fans of the series were shocked when Carrie denounced Samantha for having an intimate relationship with a young boyfriend. All this seems even more strange and incomprehensible when you consider that it was Samantha who was always there and supported Carrie even during the complete crisis in her relationship with Mr. Big.
Attentive viewers also noticed that Carrie often criticized many women for their frivolous behavior in relationships with men. This approach seems old-fashioned and sanctimonious, especially for a person who, by virtue of his profession, must constantly master new trends in relationships and be more flexible in his views.