The first step towards a relationship is perhaps the main part of building it. After all, the first impression is an integral part of the relationship, after which it is decided whether you liked the interlocutor. Previously, it was always believed that the male sex should be the first to show the initiative of acquaintance. Well, of course, after all, this stereotype was formed a long time ago – a man rules over a woman.
Girls should remember that today is the 21st century, and there is nothing shameful in the first step on the part of a woman. Some may ask the question, “Why should I do this?” Everything is very simple. Many men don’t take hints. Just imagine the situation: you like a young man, but he does not pay attention to you. What are you going to do? At best, get upset and continue to sit alone. But you can take the initiative into your own hands. Believe me, courage only attracts men. You need to be confident in yourself, to know what you want.
Why should a woman take the first step?
How should a girl understand that it is she who should meet a guy? If you saw a situation similar to you from the listed points, then you made the right decision.
- Perhaps the young man is too hesitant. If you notice on yourself his long looks, which sometimes even beg for help, take a step forward. A man must understand that you like him as much as he likes you.
- Because the thought of him does not leave your head for a second, day and night. Why torture yourself? If a woman only does what she dreams of his hugs, kisses and attention, then it is worth deciding on a big act … Do it, take the initiative.
- It is believed that the girl herself chooses with whom to build a relationship. So, who said that she should only choose from the caring circle of guys. If you like a young man, but he did not notice you, you need to do everything so that this young man will pay attention. What if you are made for each other.
- Again, why wait “by the sea for the weather” if you no longer want to spend your evenings without love. At a certain moment, a feeling of annoying loneliness simply comes, and then you want to have a person nearby who can make you smile.
- Everyone makes mistakes, especially women. If a guy paid attention to you, and you pushed him away … Now you understand that you did the wrong thing, you still like him. In such a situation, he, of course, can do the same to you. However, until you try, you don’t know, right?
- You are friends, but you intuitively feel that he does not just treat you as a friend, and the same thing happens to you. In this case, it is worthwhile to carefully start a conversation on this topic. This should happen so that in the end (all of a sudden, intuition failed), at least friendship does not disappear.
These were several reasons to pay attention first, however, there are some tips when it is not recommended to do so. So:
- you’re not 100% sure you want this.
- you’re too shy.
- if he has a girlfriend he loves.
- he is gay (this also cannot be ruled out).
Women should understand that by taking the first step, a young man can react negatively. By the way, not only because he doesn’t want it, but also because it was a surprise. In general, the reaction can be very diverse. In this case, you shouldn’t be upset about the rejection. Remember that you are strong just because you did it. Not everyone is capable of this.
If you nevertheless plucked up the courage and decided to take the first step, you need to know how to interest the young man.
In the case when a guy is indecisive and clearly wants to get to know each other, he should just ask a question. It doesn’t matter what you ask, the time or the way to the library. At such a moment, the main thing is for the guy to understand that you are not averse to getting to know each other.
Alternatively, you can ask a guy for help. Men love to feel needed and omnipotent. And after fulfilling your request, he himself will continue to communicate.
Women sometimes need to turn off their brains. Girls have the ability to come up with excuses on their own, representing his refusal or, even worse, ridicule. That is why sometimes you have to think less and do what you want. At the same time, one must really want it strongly. By the way, this applies not only to the first step. Strongly wanting (whatever it is), any person will achieve everything.
How, then, is it correct to show the initiative first?
You must adhere to several rules for dating:
- Our body language can tell a lot, so you need to keep an eye on it. If a guy likes you, he will try to hint at it anyway. When communicating, he can lean close to you, put his hand on your chair or look into your eyes for a long time. Also, knowing some of the movements, the girl will be able to demonstrate her interest. For example, show off your neck by removing your hair, or constantly touching it. Smiling is another way of saying sympathy (perhaps the most reliable one).
- Both genders appreciate pleasant conversations. Communication with the opposite sex will help not only to show your good qualities, but also to get to know the interlocutor better.
- During a conversation, do not ask typical questions about the weather or which do not have a follow-up. He will answer with one word and then an awkward silence will follow. It is recommended to talk about general hobbies. It is necessary to make it clear to the interlocutor that you are really listening to him and, moreover, that you are interested.
- Also, during a conversation, you can talk about your outlook on life or about what you want to see in your partner. This will show you your confidence. On the other hand, it is openness and honesty towards a partner. It is very good if the guy shares your position in life.
- Of course, you have to be positive. Who likes dull people? If an unpleasant topic is suddenly raised, then it is worth translating it into a joke. Don’t use negative words.
- Sometimes it is advisable to be spontaneous. For example, you can write a phone number on the first page of your favorite book and give it to a guy.
In any case, so that the girl does not take the first step, the main thing is action. There is no need to wait until the guy “matures” and comes up on his own, otherwise you can lose all chances of acquaintance. Taking the risk and taking the first step, you have a chance for a wonderful romantic relationship, which in the future can develop into a family union.