Husbands cheat, and women fall in love, disappearing in the most dangerous embrace of a married man. It is beautiful, romantic, festive, with ghostly prospects – for her, for him – a new sexual adventure, in most cases, but only for a few – an understanding and inspiring woman, next to whom you want to live, develop and everything is only for her and for her sake. her.
Why do women fall in love with married people
Relationships with married men arise due to different circumstances and reasons, but they are all connected by one thing: both were initially in search, often unconscious, and the case necessarily collides with a fateful wave. What kind of women throw themselves into the arms of married lovers?
- Married womenlooking for a romantic relationship without commitment. Family routine often does not contribute to advancement, personal development, the light goes out inside, you need to start the life “engine” again. And such relationships give a taste for life, inspiration appears as passion ignites or even without it. Healthy sex with a man who probably will not lose his head from a relationship suits both, gives everyone a recharge and, having received their own, such couples often part without regrets, good friends.
- The second category of women who fall in love with married men young girls who do not yet know about love, about life and about themselves… The inexperienced are captivated by the admiration for her of a mature (noble) man, they surrender without a trace, flying in the most romantic illusions of love and fidelity. As the relationship develops, the woman makes plans for the future, dreams of starting a family with him, extending his lineage, building a nest. Dreamily he listens to “fairy tales” that he has finally found the one that he has been looking for all his life, that his family life has practically ended, that he and his wife have not been together for a long time and that it is now that he is really happy. Inspired by the meeting with the man of her dreams – who understands, guesses all her desires, surrounded by male care and attention – she is happy, because she is his true love. And this period is the most dangerous for a man, because the instinct to give birth to a beloved child turns her into an impatient migrant, constantly talking about divorce, about a bad wife, about the future. A relationship like this tests a man’s patience until then. while he will restrain his beloved in her zeal to create a full-fledged official family with him. If a woman does not calm down, then an inevitable heartbreaking parting or a lot of partings follows, each of which is followed by a stormy reunion, which gives her hope, and he again has awesome sex with a woman in love with him.
- The third type of women who deliberately associate with married men is hunters… Their victims are respectable “married women” who have not only a good house, car, children, dacha, business, but also free capital for reproduction and for keeping mistresses. These hunters deliberately enter into a relationship with the chosen man, tie him to themselves with sex, the correct behavior of an exemplary mistress, and then begin to blackmail them in order to obtain all kinds of benefits for themselves, threatening to tell his wife everything about their relationship. These dangerous temptresses often get what they demand, mainly an apartment, a car, a trip, a fur coat, a bank account, a small business, and everything like that. Women of the second type who are offended and offended by the attitude of their lovers can be attributed to the same type. They take revenge, spoil his career, making a full profit at the same time. There are famous examples of this in history: Monica Lewinsky, Edwina Curry (mistress of the British Prime Minister J. Major).
Features of the relationship
The conflict arises from the mismatch of the goals of both. The goal of a man is to take a break from his family, enjoy society and sex with a woman he likes.… The goal of most women in a situation like this is to start a family with the man she is in love with.
A man’s initial role as a mistress does not usually change to that of a wife. Second wife – yes, but not officially married.
An experienced man specifically warms up a woman with stories about a failed marriage, routine, cold relationship with his wife. With such stories, he fuels the imagination of a woman, counting on her ardor and willingness to do anything for the sake of a future with him.
Even if a man expects to maintain a long-term relationship with a woman, he has no goal of marrying her. His desire to stay with her for a long time lies in the banal – he feels good with her, he doesn’t need more.
Psychologists say that relationships with a married man end in marriage only in 5% of 100% of such couples.
How to be now
At all times, the role of the king’s mistress was almost official, this “position” was called – the king’s favorite. Marriages were concluded only for political purposes, so the queens only cared about the continuation of the royal family and interfered little in the course of events in history. Another thing is a favorite, that is, a mistress. They took advantage of their position 100%. They were often educated ladies, but usually with a bad reputation. They influenced their king in all matters, even international ones. promoted their relatives to high positions (often wrongly). And the offer to be a mistress was not comparable to the role of a girl for one night.
The king’s mistress was given a high status, appropriate gifts, it was charged to accompany the king on his travels. It was very honorable to be his mistress, and if the mistress became pregnant, then the son was also given a name, title, estates. Of the famous mistresses who are not burdened by their position, the Marquise de Pompadour (the indefatigable mistress of the French king Louis 15), Inessa Armand (mistress of V.I.Lenin), Lilya Brik (mistress of V. Mayakovsky), Anne Penzho (mistress of the French politician) are known.
Modern married lovers are not always attracted to kings. But the secondary role of the mistress was determined by the society. Falling in love with a married woman, the woman has already gone against social dogmas, so on and you need to go, not fearing the path, as it is sung in the song. It is important to survive, take and give everything that this situation presents. If you fall in love and the situation no longer satisfies, but only infuriates with its static character from month to month, year to year: came, cuddled (restaurant, shop), ate and drank, left. then it is necessary to break off the relationship, finally rewarding yourself for the gift that the man was gifted with. If the character allows – ask for a significant gift and let go, move on.
If you want to fight for him to the end, be sure to do it, but only on the condition that he does not have young children with his wife, that he earns enough money to support both families later, that he really does not love his wife and does not see support in her. that your situation is not a repeat of your parents’ situation. In the absence of other moral barriers, fight if you love, especially if you have given birth to a child from him and he spends more time with you than with his family, involving you in his affairs, business, joint work or projects.
PS The author of the article was the mistress of a married man for 7 years, it all started with a joint business project. During these years, 2 children were born, he divorced and has been married for a year. The first family has a 17-year-old son.