Sex and sexuality

Why is it important to talk about sex?
What is sexuality? How to awaken her?
Why are most women dissatisfied with their sex life?
How is pornography and sex abuse harmful?

Today – about that.

Have you ever wondered how strange sex is compared to the rest of your life? After all, we are surrounded by serious people. They dress decently. Smart words are spoken. They look mature and respectable.

And they … have sex: they shed their decent clothes, forget clever words and, as it were, descend to the animal level. They rip off their masks, strip themselves – and this animal process begins. They move chaotically and passionately, inarticulate shouting, moaning, mooing … In general, they show their sexuality.

If all this is not about you (does not fit into your usual image), you will be ashamed of your sexuality and suppress it. This leads to a variety of sexual disorders.

It is important to trust your sexuality, not to crush it with a cold mind. Otherwise, sex will not be a living interaction, but a mechanical ritual.

Sexuality is not youth and forms, but trust in your passion. Sexy is one who has not suppressed his primitive nature, but tamed it.

A man is turned on only by a woman who loves sex. We look forward to what pleasure a woman will get from sex – and we want to deliver it. This is our male victory. We are excited by a premonition of female pleasure. The more a woman likes sex, the more attractive she is.

And if a woman is dry, and during sex did not make a sound, this is tantamount to impotence. It’s not sexy.

It is the same with a man. If he, like an idol, is passive and impassive, then the woman will seem empty, lifeless – and, of course, unattractive.

Therefore, it is so important to be able to express your passion. You can be shameless and even vicious with your beloved. To make him feel your desire. As if you are no longer people, but a male and a female. Then the man will show his lively male side of sexuality, and the woman will show her sensual, feminine side.

This kind of sex rejuvenates: it reminds you that you are still alive and full of energy.

This is especially important for a woman. If a woman is relaxed and sexy, she will feel like a real woman. Her life energy circulates more freely. The woman becomes happier. And she attracts a man so natural and blooming more strongly.

In this vein, loving yourself means accepting your sexual nature, not being ashamed of your desires, but expressing them openly in relationships.

Sexuality also paints a man. But our self-esteem depends more strongly on social fulfillment. A man may be cool in sex, but still remain a beloved hunter and breadwinner. On progressman.ru, I talked in more detail about self-esteem in this article.

Talk about sex

Sexual stiffness also prevents us from talking about sex. They did all the work, and shyly fell silent. It was as if all those sighs were just missing.

You can and should talk about sex. Otherwise, in bed you will not get what you want, but what you get. You will have to endure in silence everything that your partner does with you.

Today’s article is a synopsis of a recent video of the same name. Images to the text from the same place.

Some women take it for the norm when they are simply raped – the man did his job, was satisfied and left. As a result, the woman quietly hates both sex itself and the man for using her body. There is even a stereotype that only men need sex, but for women it is torture.

Aside from sex, how do you know your partner’s preferences? What are his erogenous zones? How much foreplay does it take? What rhythm does he like? For some, passionate and energetic sex suits. To others, it seems ridiculous physical education, but slow and sensual suits.

If your partner is embarrassed to talk about sex, discard him the link to this text. Let it uncover.

It is better for your regular partner to immediately conduct a course of classes on the topic “how to please you.” With theory and practice.

Even during the process, if something is not to your liking, you can correct your partner a couple of times. Otherwise, compulsion and tension will penetrate into sex.

Synchronization

Another popular problem in sex is the varying pace of arousal. The man gets excited and satisfied faster. And if he is not satisfied, then he also calms down quickly, without serious consequences. The woman is excited and satisfied longer. And if, being excited, she is not satisfied, she experiences it much more difficult. It harms both women’s health and psyche. If you began to excite a woman, bring it to a climax.

What does this alignment of forces lead to?

If a man does not care for female satisfaction, he becomes unwanted. And don’t be surprised that your partner has a headache every time before having sex. This is such a “psychosomatics”.

If a woman forces a man to prolong sex artificially, then she already becomes unwanted. Nobody likes forced sex. And the obsessive partner causes rejection.

Therefore, in sex, it is so important for partners to maintain the same level of arousal.

The woman will need more stimulation. And there is no need to lie on a log and wait for a man to do everything himself – he is also not a sex machine. Do not hesitate to help yourself: female masturbation during sex is completely natural.

It is important for partners to balance on the same wavelength, but do not go to extremes and try to synchronize orgasms. If someone finished early, that’s okay.

And again: talk about sex!

If the partner finally gets aroused when the man has cooled down half an hour ago, he will be out of shape. And this is not impotence and not a reason for shame, but a reason for conversation. Feel free to talk about the nuances of your sexuality. Remove the taboo from this topic. Do not expect that everything will somehow work out quietly for you. Consistency comes from negotiating and listening to each other.

Pornography and burnout

Another common problem in sex is burnout. Sex ceases to please if it is abused.

You don’t have to have sex, or masturbate out of boredom to have fun. Squeezing orgasms out of the body is a direct road to impotence and frigidity. If you are not being aroused easily and spontaneously, but only by efforts through force, then you have simply squeezed yourself out. It’s time to pause and refrain from self-gratification. At least for a while, until sexual arousal comes again spontaneously without stimulation.

Hold on for a few weeks if necessary. And one day the passion will return.

Another reason for burnout in sex is pornography. The more actively you stuff yourself with luxurious bodies from the screen, the more boring reality seems.

If you are used to being satisfied with pornography, and your beloved spouse does not turn you on, it’s time to admit that you are getting drunk.

Sometimes snickering lovers try to regain their former passion by increasing the dose: they try something new, forbidden. But what is required, on the contrary, is to slow down, to give yourself a break.

Imagine that you ate too many cakes, and in addition, you are also stuffed with a hot lunch. You will be turned back from him. And the same dinner will seem divine if you have time to get hungry.

To enjoy sex, you need to miss it. Feed yourself in moderation. Do not overdo it. Then the passion will return.

And do not walk around the apartment naked – this devalues ​​your intimate space. Let the nudity remain a gift to each other.

Another popular problem in sex is relationship-related. The sexiest qualities are confidence and self-sufficiency. And if the partner, like a child, is helpless and whiny, he will not cause attraction. Addiction is not sexy.

Almost everyone has problems in sex. Share this text with your friends and family.

Igor Satorin

P.S.
To summarize:
Desire kills forced sex, violence against oneself.
Desire kills the partner’s asexuality when he does not enjoy sex: like an idol – passive, impassive, he does everything mechanically, without making a sound.
Desire kills an immoderate amount of sex and masturbation – orgasm should not become commonplace.
Desire kills pornography when you want more and more badly.
Desire kills the partner’s infantilism and insecurity – any non-sexual behavior.
Draw parallels and answer the question: “What strengthens your sex life?”

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