Feminine destiny: the essence of female psychology

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In almost every religion, in many philosophical treatises and teachings, the question is raised why we come to this world. Is there a purpose of human existence, is there a specific purpose for every intelligent creature, what is the male and female purpose in this world. There are many opinions on this matter and they are extremely multifaceted – some great minds believe that you need to completely surrender into the hands of God and rely only on his decisions, others adhere to the theory that man is the crown of nature and the creator of everything that exists, is born with a specific purpose.

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Female jealousy

Are there any such concepts as “female” and “male” jealousy? Yes, there is. How do they differ from each other?

We talked about men in the last article. This time we will figure out what “female jealousy” is.

Women’s jealousy is always fear. Fear of loss, fear of loneliness.

And if a man blames his wife for treason, then for a woman, on the contrary, the root of all troubles is a rival bitch. After all, the fear of being alone is stronger than pain and resentment. It is more convenient to think that the beloved has simply “stumbled”, “succumbed to the cunning charms” of the lovemaker. Then you can not break off relations, cry and forgive, and betrayal will become a lever of manipulation – “I endure so much, I suffer, I forgive!”

Unlike male jealousy, female jealousy is based on emotion, not sex. For women, physical infidelity is not as overwhelming as it is for men. Well changed and changed – they are all like that.

For the weaker half, it is much more scary when a man admires the other, shows attention and care. This is a tragedy and betrayal.

Nevertheless, women are more likely to forgive cheating. After all, building a new relationship from scratch is long and scary, and if there is also a material dependence on a partner, the chance to start a new life seems to be zero.

3 types of women prone to jealousy

1. Insecure

This is the most common type of jealous woman. She doubts that she is worthy of her man. Low self-esteem, self-doubt, hurt self-esteem – this is the perfect soil to grow not a beautiful flower of love, but a thorny cactus of jealousy.

2. The daughter of a jealous mom

This jealousy “comes from childhood.” All her life, the girl saw before her eyes an example of a mother who always suspects her father of intrigues. And he simply does not represent another model of behavior.

3. Owner

“Don’t touch – mine!” In this case, jealousy extends not only to potential rivals. Both the mother-in-law and female colleagues fall under the skating rink of possessiveness – in general, everyone who at least somehow pretends to the time and attention of a loved one.

Top 5 reasons for female jealousy:

  • An inferiority complex (“How can you love me like this?”).

  • Injured pride (“I am neglected, even the computer is more important than me!”).

  • Hypertrophied sense of ownership (“This is MY man, he belongs to me!”).

  • Fear of losing the “breadwinner” (“Children need a father, I can’t do it alone!”).

  • Copying the model of behavior of the parental family.

Pathological jealousy cannot seal a relationship. Destroy – yes. And very quickly and easily. And you must be aware that if you have contracted this virus – that’s it, the countdown has started in the relationship. So ask yourself: “Why do I want to destroy my family?” It’s time to get rid of this ailment before the trouble happens.

How to deal with jealousy

Answer yourself honestly to the question: “What made me defend so actively?”

After all, jealousy is always a defense, sometimes hysterical, sometimes aggressive, sometimes passive.

“What am I really afraid of?”

Losing material goods or being alone?

And most importantly – learn to love yourself!

Any woman wants to be the only one, special for her man. But! If we do not love and value ourselves, if we do not admire ourselves, then how can we evoke these feelings in a loved one? And reproaches, suspicions, scandals begin.

Learn to be proud of yourself, enjoy your virtues. Confident women are not jealous.

Lyudmila Ivanovskaya,

psychologist, trainer, specialist in the field of relations

and family constellations


Magnets are bodies that have the ability to attract or repel other bodies (iron and steel objects, for example) due to the action of their magnetic field.

Feminine magnetism has the same principle – we can attract or repel people, opportunities and events. Just as a magnet has a magnetic field, so a woman has her energy field. This is what we call a special female energy in everyday life.

What is it? This is a whole cocktail of important female states: charm, sexuality, self-confidence, individuality, femininity and sensuality. It is impossible to say which of these qualities attracts more. Attraction is created by the combination of these qualities, which reflect the uniqueness of a woman. But there is still something that is extremely important in this cocktail!

A woman is an embodied feeling. This is the “heart” of the inner magnet. It is those feelings that we experience and cultivate within ourselves – this is what attracts or repels something in our field. Magnetism is not only the ability to attract, but also, it is the ability to inspire trust, interest and the desire to be closer. And this is responsibility, because it can be called influence. Why influence? Because it can awaken strong feelings in other people too. And here the emotional swing can have a strong amplitude.

If we cultivate and experience anxiety, insecurity, aggression inside ourselves, then we attract situations and people corresponding to vibrations. We know how to keep in the very heart tenderness, acceptance, the ability to rejoice and notice the good, then in the “rainy days of our Soul” we feel the sunlight and warmth of space support, through people and situations. What’s inside is outside. This is the greatest responsibility of a woman. Be aware of your power over what you create around you and what you attract.

Unfortunately, now we women think more than we feel. We do not experience our feelings in the body, but think about them. We rationalize, disassemble and assemble our mental mosaics. It is very similar to a kaleidoscope – small stones gather into intricate patterns in a pipe, and we just watch and spin this kaleidoscope. But each pattern is our state. Unique, collected from many nuances and only at this moment. Can we admire this magic? Do we manage to live our multifaceted sensuality and sensitivity? This does not mean at all that a woman does not analyze and reason. But if she pays most of her attention to this, then she loses the nature of her magnetism.

A woman who does not choose her feelings, does not experience these feelings in her body, loses the power of attraction of her energy field. If we want to be magnetic, attractive women, we must understand our responsibility, and not just strive for power over the feelings of other people. After all, sometimes we are not very well versed in our feelings.

What kind of field am I creating? What do I attract? I strive to strengthen my magnetism so what? Do I know what to do with what I attract?

Yes, you still need to reason … Do not immerse yourself in a mental multi-level arcade game that will never end, but ask yourself honest and accurate questions. Learn to listen to the answers with all of yourself, and not formulate them only from the mind and familiar algorithms.

Why can a woman, with all her external attractiveness, not be magnetic? Because he does not know inside what to do with what will attract. What to do with male attention, for example. We are very often afraid of exactly what will turn out. For with the fact that it does not work, we have somehow learned to live. But if it works out, it will entail changes in the usual life. Relationships with family and friends may change. We so want to be an attractive woman, but what about the possible jealousy of our friends? How to deal with the fear of rejection? I want to build relationships through magnetism, and inner convictions whisper that if you are very attractive, they will envy. And the desired becomes what causes fear and anxiety. And these feelings begin to form inside the “base” of what we attract. The circle is complete. I am afraid of what I am attracting and I continue to attract it. As a result, I am afraid of myself and of what attracts me. The more energy we have, the more we attract accordingly – the more power in feelings and emotions, the more response in the energy field. How to protect yourself from yourself and your own attraction? Right! Stop feeling! Weaken gravity as much as possible. Fuhhh … Everything! The internal mine is cleared, de-energized. True, along with this, both the drive and the taste of life disappeared.

We block our own power of attraction. This is not a magnet we got by nature “defective”, but we are afraid of our own power of magnetic or do not understand the laws of female energy. Female Magnetism is a real treasure, a unique gift and skill that can be used for the benefit of yourself and the entire Universe!

Since ancient times, Women have gathered together to create a circle of the female Guardian Power around themselves, their relatives and friends. Women carried out cleansing practices aimed at getting rid of everything superfluous, sick, unnecessary, which could be in the inner and outer space, exchanged knowledge, shared their states with each other. Women thus strengthened each other and strengthened their magnetism.

I invite you, beloved ones, to gather in the Big Women’s Coastal Circle on the eve of International Women’s Day in order to create a safe and very healing space in which the remembrance of yourself and your Nature takes place! In this Guardian Women’s Circle, the lost pieces of our Soul return, which are collected in an incomparable kaleidoscope of our sensory experiences, discoveries and revelations, which endlessly strengthens each of us.

Each of you, you, you have a place in this Circle and each of you, you, you are welcome here!

About female nature

A woman, in comparison with a man, is more spontaneous, her whole being is attuned to the Universe. The menstrual cycle, and the whole life of the fair half, obey natural rhythms: the phases of the moon, the change of ebb and flow … And this is only the external, physical side of correspondence.

There is also an inner power hidden in every woman, intuition. It is she who reveals to the world the Truth, inaccessible to a rational man. It is not for nothing that ancient cults exalt the goddess of nature, the Mother, who was worshiped by priests, warriors and poets.

A man can be annoyed by the seeming illogicality of his girlfriend. No wonder so many anecdotes have been invented on this topic! In fact, go to the store for a winter coat and come back with a swimsuit. Go to an important interview … and suddenly change your mind halfway, give up to the train station and take a ticket to the sea. “Oh, how feminine it is,” the men say with a touch of condescension.

And only the wise and sensitive know that a woman is subject not to linear logic, simple and convenient, but to intuition.

The famous science fiction writer Ivan Efremov, deeply immersed in the study of Eastern wisdom, wrote that only a woman can fully express the essence of the dance – its fragile, elusive magic.

The woman’s dance is a reflection of Truth.

It is necessary for a woman to be in harmony with the Universe, this is the only way she can perform her beautiful dance.

And if the dance loses its natural harmony … the woman suddenly feels discomfort and inexplicable melancholy. Something makes her radically change her life: profession, city, partner, etc.

By the way, about the partner. What should it be? A harmonious pair is one where a man is for a woman, like an oak for ivy – a reliable support and at the same time grows and develops itself. In addition, he must respect the female nature and, observing the actions of his beloved, not condemn, but draw conclusions. Without realizing it, a woman will choose the right path.

What happens if a woman ignores the needs of her soul and tries to live logically, correctly, like a man? Most often, she earns herself a neurosis, and sometimes she turns from the goddess of grace Lakshmi into the destroyer of Kali!

Dear women, listen to yourself! Be attentive to circumstances and events: very often signs are given through them – something is going wrong; and tips – what vector should be chosen in order to enter the path of harmony and awakening.

Men, be wise partners for your woman, respect and accept her dance, then she will become a conductor of divine harmony and awaken the potential of a creator in you.

Lyudmila Ivanovskaya,

psychologist, trainer, specialist in the field of relations

and family constellations