Safe sex on the Internet.  Where to find the right partner?

Safe sex on the Internet. Where to find the right partner?

Safe sex on the Internet. Where to find the right partner?

Nowadays, the Internet has become an integral part of the life of almost every person. It is so tightly interconnected with our daily life that it is very difficult to imagine its absence. The Internet is what makes our life more convenient and easier, more mobile. And the fact that we transferred many aspects of our reality to virtual space in order to save time, and simply because it is easy and convenient, turned out to be quite predictable. One of those moments is online acquaintance.



Andrey_Popov, Shutterstock.com

Making acquaintance on the Internet is easier than, directly, in a real society. The Internet is a zone of almost absolute freedom and expression of one’s desires, which have to be held back in real life due to various conditions, be it observance of etiquette or even violation of current legislation. In the Internet space, it is easier for a person to get rid of complexes and become liberated.

There are many social networks for dating on the Internet, both of general importance (classmates, VKontakte, my world) and specialized ones, which aim to find their soul mate (mamba, loveplanet) as the main goal. One of the main reasons for dating the opposite sex is to satisfy sexual needs. Prolonged lack of sex often leads to the destruction of personal life. Negative attitude towards others, irritability – these are just a few of the symptoms that a lonely, dissatisfied person suffers from.

Naturally, when meeting on the Internet, you are not immune from a flurry of offers to immediately engage in sex, but, in turn, the Internet protects you from direct physical harassment. This is definitely a positive point.

So, where to start looking for a potential partner in the interactive space. First of all, you need to decide and realize why you need a partner: for a serious relationship or directly for sex for a while.

Sex without obligation: the simpler the goal, the easier and faster it is to achieve. For those who are least fortunate in real relationships or who cannot start them due to lack of time, just throw a cry: “I want sex!”, Attach a spicy “photo”, and ... you can count the seconds until potential partners appear. Of course, the quality and contingent will vary, there is nothing to be done. We select applicants and choose the lucky one. Well, what did you expect? Everyone wants! Perhaps this relationship will develop into something more serious.
For me personally, this kind of relationship is unacceptable and not enjoyable.

Serious relationship: for a serious relationship that includes sex, you must first find the subject of your feelings and desires. Establish communication aimed at deeper acquaintance, so that your partner begins to trust you and let you into your personal space, taking his time and revealing his feelings to you.

It must be remembered that the sooner you transfer your virtual feelings into the real world, the sooner you will know if there is a chance to embody this relationship physically. For seriousness obliges.

To successfully achieve the goal with a successful acquaintance, your joint relationship must go through these main stages:
one) Virtual communication. Through correspondence on social networks.
2)Voice contact by phone or skype.
3) Physical communication and contact.

You must not forget about the dangers that lie in wait for you when meeting on the Internet. On any resource, you may encounter the following participants:

Pickupers. Individuals who are looking for dating solely for the purpose of seduction and replenishment of their collection of victories in the sexual field.

Network trolls. They are amused by playing on your feelings. They will try to bring you into emotional conflict, getting special psychological pleasure from this.

Scammers. This contingent of users makes acquaintances, aimed at getting money and other material benefits from you, under the means of deception. Remember! Your money is just your money. People who accuse you of stinginess cannot be justified by any good feelings and intentions.

Maniacs. The danger that a person you like on the Web may turn out to be a maniac should not be a reason for abandoning this type of relationship. Taking precautions and thoughtful actions will keep you out of trouble and help you avoid dangerous situations.

Regulars of chats / forums. For them, online dating and communication has become a habit with the help of which they get away from everyday bored reality and everyday life. Their goal is most often to conquer the next girl / guy, rather than the desire to have sex.

Returning to reality, I note that the Internet is certainly funny, but every year we feel less and less reality, and, harming our physical body, we are drawn into the stream of ones and zeros. As one of the classics, who wished to remain anonymous, put it: “Have sex gentlemen, and do not have brains for yourself and others!»© Have sex, love each other, do not be shy about your feelings, let sex take not the last place in your life. And to keep your sex safe, remember to use condoms. Luck with searching!

  • Comment on 6

  • Estimate




Article published in Issue 02/12/2015

Updated 07.22.

How to find your happiness on the Internet?  Virtual love story

How to find your happiness on the Internet? Virtual love story

How to find your happiness on the Internet? Virtual love story

How long can you walk in girls? Spring is all around, couples on the benches are squeezing, you alone with your books and pieces of paper! Lena, you are already twenty-seven, it’s time to find your soul mate!Lena sighed heavily and deleted the message in Odnoklassniki. Mom managed to get her even two thousand kilometers away. There was no desire to answer.


Photo: Depositphotos

“And what can you answer here?” – thought our heroine, – “What is she right? That the dusty archive of the central library has replaced my personal life? Who needs me. People first pay attention to appearance, and only then look inside. Not that Lena was scary, she just had absolutely nothing special – calm brown eyes, framed by unremarkable eyelashes and eyebrows, a straight, slightly snub nose, lips with a bow. The usual figure, the usual hairstyle on unpainted brown hair … too ordinary to compete for the handsome and smart.

The tablet quietly squeaked, announcing the message that had arrived again. Lena had an irresistible desire to roll her eyes. Except for my mother, hardly anyone could write. Well, of course…

“You abandoned yourself! Has ceased to take care of herself! You dress like a gray mouse, immediately run home from work, and again rummage through the damn papers! It’s time to find yourself a normal guy! By the way, sex, from the point of view of health, is inalienable … ”

The girl sighed and closed the browser. She stared into the mirror hanging on the opposite wall. Mom was right about everything. After several unsuccessful attempts to find herself a gentleman, she closed herself off and stopped trying, and also stopped painting, dressing normally and began to slouch.

Previously, she was invited to parties where there were a lot of guys, but, unfortunately, they were only interested in the curvaceous forms of her girlfriends and their silly drunken laughter. Clever girls frightened off “clubbers”, besides, Lena did not use intoxicants, therefore, to her, a sober and boring “gray mouse”, all these events were, to put it mildly, disgusting.

Over time, both events and girlfriends have sunk into oblivion. In principle, there was no male in the library, and the one that was, did not come to flirt.

She did not know how to make acquaintances on the streets. For one single time, I decided to talk to the guy I liked at the bus stop. He looked at her with a timid smile, but for some reason he did not come up. Lena decided: “I was – I wasn’t”, straightened her soft chestnut curl and had already taken a step towards the meeting, when a pretty blonde emerged next to the candidate and threw herself on his neck. After that, the desire to meet on the streets disappeared.

Lena sighed heavily and went to bed. She dreamed that she had grown old and was sitting in a wheelchair, surrounded by a bunch of meowing cats, and calling for help … knowing that no one would come, that she had no one. Life stretched out in a gray strip of gloomy loneliness, in which there was no salutary warmth of human feelings, there were only at once disgusted books, suffocating dusty archival documents and dead silence …

She woke up, sitting up jerkily on the bed, feeling her heart beating wildly, giving off a discordant rumble to her whiskey. “Damn my mom with her advice for the coming sleep!” – Cursing angrily, Lena walked into the kitchen, shivering from the coolness of the night. It was still dark outside the window.

Pouring hot tea, she slowly turned on her laptop and opened a browser, deciding to distract herself by reading some not too abstruse article on rare books. Books were her passion and her life.

“And how could they get disgusted? A stupid dream, a stupid one, ”she persuaded herself like a little child, but the feeling of horror from the coming loneliness in the company of the feline did not let her go. “Well, what is twenty-seven years? Nonsense, I’ll have time yet! Surely not only I am still alone among the graduates. We ought to check. ”

“Odnoklassniki” happily squeaked two unread ones. Mom wrote that it was time to pull myself together and open up towards new adventures: “Dating sites have long been invented for such timid girls like you. On loverating.ru you will find a list of all the decent services. Register and find yourself the same bibliophile. Love books together! And I will finally nurse my grandchildren! ”

Lena chuckled. Based on my mother’s tone, there’s no choice. We’ll either have to look for a groom, or go to the ends of the world from her reproaches. But sites
dating? She, a candidate of literary sciences, to look for a guy on the Internet?

Odnoklassniki gave sad statistics – absolutely all of her school friends had families, posted bright photos of happily smiling children hugging friendly mums and dads.

Lena took in more air in her lungs and clicked on the first dating service in the rating list. Having chosen the desired age and profession of the partner, she suddenly saw him. The guy I wanted to approach at the bus stop! Apparently, the pretty blonde did not stay in his life, but he turned out to be the same “bibliophile” – an employee of one of the largest publishing houses in Russia. With a shaking hand, she clicked the write message icon. And hovered over the keyboard.

“And what will I write to him? Hey, did we see each other at the bus stop six months ago? Oh, are you a bookworm too? Crap. Well, why did I even go to this site? ” – Irritably slamming the lid of the laptop, Lena went to bed, not even finishing her tea.

This time the phone vibrated. Half asleep, she grabbed him and, closing one eye, looked at the display. Received a notification about successful registration and … about a new message! Excitedly throwing off the blanket, the girl jerkily grabbed the smartphone more comfortably. It was a message from the same guy, Kirill. “This is a dream! I’m probably dreaming! ”- flashed through my brain.

“Hello! It seems to me that we have already met somewhere … I just can’t remember where. Maybe at some conference on literature? ” It instantly dawned on her that the profile picture had been taken the very day they crossed paths in this big city. “Accidents are not accidental” – Lena smiled and convulsively tapped on the phone screen.

They talked all night long, endlessly discussing books, poets, writers, switching to their own interests, stories about themselves, about the world around them. He was not only cute and smart, but also understood her perfectly. After parting in order to get ready for work, Lena fluttered to the mirror and found herself not slouching anymore. There were no signs of sleepless nights and fatigue. She was overwhelmed by the absolute
unlimited happiness. Immediately from the forgotten dressing table a box with cosmetics appeared …

“Lena! When will you come to me! Arseny Kirillovich does not know his grandmother at all, but he was born thanks to me! ” Mom unceremoniously woke her up with a vibrating smartphone. Lena got out of the warm embrace of her sleeping husband and smiled happily as she typed in the text: “Thank you, mommy! Wait for us at the weekend. Love you”.



Article published in Issue 3/05/2017



How to find a husband over the Internet?  Search routine

How to find a husband over the Internet? Search routine

How to find a husband over the Internet? Search routine

This action guide for women over 30, with a sense of humor, well-educated, professional or career-based. Probably not the first time looking for a partner and with children. And at the same time, the decisive question for itself is whether it is possible to find your soul mate in virtual reality.


Photo: Depositphotos

It must be admitted that your idea is akin to trying to find a gold earring in a pile of garbage or even excrement. Doesn’t it turn away?

Then let’s move on. Finding a husband through online dating is really difficult, but possible. The difficulty is to start treating your search as a routine, i.e. how to work in which you are a pro. This means that success inspires you and failure does not knock you out of the saddle. This is the approach you will have to extrapolate to find a husband.

Let's remember that you are looking for a husband, and not for a momentary admirer of your unbridled sex-appeal and the out-of-place image of a vamp woman!

How to find a husband over the Internet?  Search routine
Photo: Depositphotos

"Nothing over the edge!" - this is what should be guided so that the interlocutor can relax in the hope that today he will not be served for lunch as the main course.

So, the evening is in full swing. It's time to talk about your behavior, which we will do in the next article.

  • Comment on 4

  • Estimate




Article posted in Issue 25/05/2017

Updated 08.22.