Why has each of us at least once in his life tried to get acquainted on the Internet?
Online dating is a bright and significant phenomenon of the 21st century. Many people today spend the lion’s share of their free time on the Internet, hoping to forge a special friendship or romantic relationship with someone. Users of dating sites eagerly await each new meeting in the chat and enthusiastically create attention-grabbing profiles.
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Online dating and virtual relationships are becoming more and more popular every year. And this popularity continues to grow steadily, as well as the expansion of the Internet. The purpose of our review is to study the phenomenon of virtual relationships and determine the fundamental factors that influence the appeal of people to Internet dating sites.
It has been noticed that most of the site members literally “rush into the pool with their heads”, hoping to find a potential partner without limiting themselves to the framework of a quarter, suburb or small country. People boldly leave their hometowns and even countries to meet with a virtual friend or, in reality, strengthen their online sympathy.
Virtual dating is gaining unprecedented popularity, since the placement of a questionnaire allows people to introduce themselves to the whole world and colorfully tell about themselves in every corner of it. The process of filling out and posting a personal questionnaire on an online dating site allows a person to look at himself differently, to explore all facets of his personality on his own, which is an excellent impulse to present himself – the true one. And the concept of anonymity allows people to fully explore themselves without fear of judgment or ridicule. Internet dating sites liberate people in things and questions to which they usually react differently in real situations when communicating face-to-face with a partner.
Once people have figured out their true belonging to a particular social, religious or sexual group, they work to present themselves to the world in the most favorable light, while maintaining as much believability as possible.
However, there are some disadvantages to using dating sites. Agree, thinking about virtual communication, we understand that some degree of deception is still present. And this is true! People deliberately deceive others in order to look more attractive, more successful, get more views on their profile and get potential dates. But it is worth noting that not everyone is deliberately distorting reality.
To speak as frankly as possible or to embellish reality is an individual question, depending on a number of reasons and purposes of registration on a dating site. As you know, Internet relationships start for a variety of reasons. Online anonymity allows users to connect with people who meet their emotional needs, regardless of their place of residence or religion.
Often, such online dating turns into an extramarital relationship, but in most cases it occurs between single people who share common interests. Taking into account the huge number of people who want to find their love and family on the Internet, there is a great chance for each of them to meet a like-minded person.
People often and openly share their sexual preferences and interests online. Perhaps the most attractive feature of Internet dating is precisely the fact that people can express their “true face” as openly as possible and find partners who accept and respect someone else’s inner world. Sociologists and psychologists have come to the conclusion that the “true self” is revealed precisely in the virtual world. Unfortunately, in a real environment, the “true self” can not always be freely and openly expressed. Thus, relationships that are formed with the “true self” in mind often become more pleasant and durable than the typical ones created in the real world.
Experimenting with the sexual side of online relationships is also becoming more and more popular. The Internet provides users with a place where they can explore their sexuality in a way they could previously only imagine. Now they make their fantasies come true, and the Internet, if desired, helps them to remain unknown at the same time.
For example, bdsm dating on kinkylove.com provides users with a huge scope for finding partners with similar extraordinary sexual fantasies and fetishes. Such a dating site allows a person to transform, anyone can try on all sorts of roles and change their virtual image as many times as they like.
It’s worth noting that while internet sex certainly has sensory limitations, research shows that the level of intimacy on the internet is reached earlier than in real life situations. All this is due to the lack of social circumstances, the awkwardness or modesty of one of the partners, or the likelihood of early disclosure of the intentions of one of the partners. Internet dating sites liberate where necessary and hide the intentions of the interlocutors until the partner decides to declare them.
A few years ago, the idea of developing personal relationships with someone through a computer and the Internet seemed unrealistic and just a motive for another melodrama. Now this is not only a very common phenomenon, but also a nice option that allows you to expand your horizons. The Internet today is a meeting place for people, like a cozy cafe or a noisy club. At the same time, the Internet gives the user a magic wand that will help make each meeting place unique, interesting, suitable for each of the partners.
Article published in Issue 06/11/2014