Recently I learned the story of one of my colleagues who met an interesting young man on a social network. The novel arose serious and there were even talks about living together, while all communication was carried out exclusively via Skype and e-mail. This case surprised me very much and raised the question, is it really possible to find love through the Internet? Moreover, so many are now getting to know each other.
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The pluses of this trend include the fact that dating has become more accessible. Without meeting in real life, you can find suitable candidates and communicate, getting to know each person better. This is an absolute plus for a city dweller, who, as a rule, has a shortage of time to establish acquaintances.
To this we can add that every year the number of couples who met through the Internet is growing. Surely there are similar examples among your friends. This alone suggests that there is a benefit from online dating.
4. Internet communication is time consuming.
Virtual communication takes a lot of time, while a real meeting in many cases immediately puts everything in its place. While we are building virtual images, waiting and wasting time, the very first meeting often gives an answer to the question whether this is my person or not.
So, we conclude that dating through the Internet has its own characteristics, both positive and negative. To avoid the latter, you need to test your feelings and build relationships already in the course of real communication.
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We stopped meeting on the street. We are too lazy, because it is enough to look at the Internet – and on the screen we will be presented with thousands of options for dating …
Today, virtual dating applications can be found in every second mobile phone, but it won’t take long, and you see, they will be standard along with a calculator or built-in games. One way or another, but this type of entertainment is gaining more and more popularity in our dynamic and sociable society.
Agree, the idea of communicating on the Internet with a nice young man during his work break over a cup of coffee seems much more exciting than washing the bones of his superiors with a colleague. Yes, yes, it is during a break, because almost all such resources provide an opportunity to get acquainted with those who are very close. One has only to create a profile, upload a few good photos, IRs … here are a couple of messages on your page!
Perhaps, having some experience in such acquaintances, I can say with confidence that 80% of your future relationships will depend on how you present yourself at the beginning.
Even the most educated and humble young man will see in his eyes your intentions, and if there are devilish devils dancing lambada, he is unlikely to want to tune you into a more serious mood, and for the time of meeting you he will simply postpone the idea of a long-term relationship.
Dating on the Internet today is no longer surprising, and perhaps there is nothing criminal in them - someone is just passing the time, someone will make useful connections and make friends, and someone is lucky enough to meet their soul mate.
Whatever it was, but so that your date does not turn out to be casual or meaningless, before creating a profile, you should think about it, and what exactly do you want?
Online dating – how to turn virtual happiness into real one?
Most people are embarrassed to meet in reality. Parks, cafes, clubs – it would seem that everything is so simple, but, alas, sometimes it is incredibly difficult to step over modesty and constraint. And the fear of rejection does not give confidence. Someone simply does not go to the right places, and it is not at all for the girls to come up first. How to be in a situation when loneliness is already unbearable, but nothing can be changed?
For this, Internet dating sites have long been invented. Most people snort contemptuously when they hear about another service. It is not surprising, because often at the first visit, a flurry of spam, intimate offers and photos, messages from matchmakers falls on the user. It immediately becomes clear that you cannot find your love in such a place. And besides, it is difficult to find an interesting interlocutor out of thousands of users who shares your views on life.
The new generation of sites for singles is distinguished by a high degree of control over spammers, matchmakers and aggressive users, and also involves searching not only by standard parameters, such as age, gender, attitudes towards smoking or alcohol. For example, on linkyou.ru you can “weed out” candidates by profession, religion and even nationality filter. You just start a questionnaire, choose the necessary conditions and get a list of possible candidates.
Having decided on the choice of a dating site and posting a profile, try to develop tactics, thanks to which easy virtual communication will successfully turn into a serious, and quite real, relationship.
Install photothat reflect your real appearance as much as possible. In an effort to please the vending user, many often post someone else’s, or their “improved” photos in Photoshop. As a result, overestimated expectations are formed on the other side of the screen, and when the long-awaited meeting comes, disappointment is inevitable. It is better to find someone to whom you will become dear without retouching and correction.
Trust but verify… Alas, the world is full of scammers, and it is not always possible to protect each user from them. You should not, in the heat of feelings, transfer your funds to the interlocutor, provide personal data and bank card numbers, send copies of documents. Even if he asks very much and swears to everything he can, looks innocent and convincing, be aware that there is a great risk of loss and savings and feelings.
Feel free to searchinformation about the interlocutor on third-party resources. Search engines provide data not only for a text query – you can use the “image search” by uploading a photo of your correspondence partner. Before the first meeting, it’s a good idea to call in a video chat, so you will surely be sure that the person’s appearance matches his avatar.
Be yourself… Try to communicate sincerely, do not try to please by portraying the ideal life partner, sharing every look of your partner. Sooner or later, your communication will be transferred to the material world, where the discrepancy between the romantic image from the network and the real figure will inevitably cause the collapse of all dreams.
Be mindful of the little things… From the very first reports, it is often easy to identify professional “pick-up artists”, prostitutes, matchmakers, perverts. Too cheeky tone, clichés and patterns, inappropriate humor – all this is a very likely sign that the interlocutor has no serious intentions. Try to trust your intuition, use the methods of Sherlock Holmes – analyze virtual letters, their spelling and punctuation, emoticons. Do not close your eyes to annoying or unpleasant moments – believe me, in life these corners will sharpen more.
Fill out the form as accurately and completely as possible… You may not have to look for a partner – happiness will knock on the door by itself. More precisely, in private messages. The more information in the questionnaire, the higher the likelihood of getting a message from the ideal partner.
Do not put pressure on the interlocutorinsisting on seeing you soon. Even if you think you are the perfect match, the person on the other side of the monitor may still have doubts. Some people need more time to take serious steps; excessive pressure can only frighten off the candidate they like.
Be calm about failure… On the Internet, as in life, gaps between interlocutors are possible. Try to take everything philosophically – if the connection is broken, then this is simply not your person. Try again, on the portal of thousands of people, there will definitely be someone who will make you happy!
Although many people, when they hear about online dating, snort contemptuously, there are a great many couples on earth that have developed thanks to such sites. Try and you, what if you get lucky?
Online dating. Is the French kiss really that sweet?
This story began in the spring. At this moment in my life, I had a difficult period filled with a mass of negative emotions, and in order not to go crazy and not slip into depression, I began to learn English.
I really liked him at school. I thought it would be nice to pull him up now. When traveling, it can be very useful, and I love to do it! Knowing about my passion for English, a friend advised me to register on a language exchange site – this is where some people communicate to improve their language skills, but by and large, the main audience is set up for romance and flirting.
It is an amazing feeling when you meet people from different parts of the world every day! In the morning you drink coffee with a playful conversation with Los Angeles on Skype, get a bunch of sugary-sweet confessions from Turkey and fall asleep to the gentle cooing of Paris: “Reve de nous, mon Amour!”.
Cold gray morning. Lady Antebellum "Need You Now" is playing on the speakers. There are tons of new messages in the mail from the USA, Turkey, Germany, Algeria, Spain and ... France. In the evening, a cold shower and Garou songs in headphones. It hurts, it hurts a lot ...
Why do I still love him and can't forget? Maybe it just takes time. I put my hands on the steering wheel of my car, my head tilted back, heavy eyelids closed my eyes. Billie Myers sang his song "Kiss the rain" on the radio, and tears run down his cheeks in thin streams. How I want to be now not here, but at the airport, waiting for the Moscow-Paris flight, knowing that you are flying to me on the wings of love.
PS The plot of the article is taken from one story heard by the author on the Internet. Names and some details are not mentioned at the request of the main character.
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Technology does not stand still. Today we have access to something that a couple of decades ago we could not even dream of. This also applies to acquaintances – every year they are increasingly moving into the virtual space. Good or bad – it’s definitely not for us to judge. Here are some interesting facts about online dating that you probably didn’t know about.
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80% of dating site users lie about themselves. Most often, deception concerns height, weight, age, financial situation. The tendency, frankly, is so-so – during a personal meeting, everything will fall into place anyway.
39% of women are afraid that on a dating site they might meet a serial maniac. In fact, the probability of this is extremely small – the chance that a bag of money will fall on your head is much higher.
Every tenth user of a dating site is a scammer. Everyone has a chance to communicate with him, and it is quite real.
Only 32% of online dating ends with a real meeting. All the rest of the communication remains in the virtual plane – there are many reasons for this.
According to statistics, men, when meeting on the Internet, pay attention to what is written in the questionnaire of a potential partner. In turn, girls mainly look at men’s photos.
For 32% of users of dating sites, a well-filled profile is a key factor in dating. Therefore, do not be lazy, filling out your profile, and google words that cause you doubts.
80% of users of dating sites are people between the ages of 18 and 35. This will greatly surprise those who are convinced that virtual dating is for age losers.
44% of people registered on dating sites have children.
18% of people who have profiles on dating sites are married or in a relationship. They are among those who do not go on dates – people just communicate, while experiencing a certain moral pleasure.
46% of dating site users ask their friends how best to fill out a profile. It is noteworthy that even 10 years ago, a profile in a dating service was something shameful. Today this is the norm, which cannot but rejoice.
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